1 Clean Heart
Many people like the feeling of a new look after the house is cleaned. Similarly, the feeling of haircut is also very good, because the extra things have been removed.
Children are happy because they don’t have too much worries or unnecessary worries. But adults are different. There are too many overstocking things, too much imagined complexity and some expanded grief in our lives.
People who use computers all know that recycle bin needs to be emptied frequently, otherwise it will take up too much space and affect the running speed of computers. So is the human mind. You can’t throw everything away, and you can’t keep everything. Smart people are those who are good at making trade-offs, and those who choose trade-offs timely. People who have too many worries can not walk fast, and people who have no worries at all are mostly lack of rationality.
And the difficulty of life is also here. You have to constantly clean and give up some things, because “the less things filled in life, the more potential you can develop”. I remember in a play, a man said to the protagonist, “Let’s go, don’t turn back, don’t come back if you can’t do well.” He meant to let him leave here, hoping not to let the past drag him down.
Cleaning the soul is a process of struggle and struggle. Life is a journey of waving hands constantly. Young people should say goodbye to hometown, sad people should say goodbye to sadness, Eagle should say goodbye to comfort, and happiness should say goodbye to sadness. Without farewell, there is no growth. To be strong, you must have the courage to turn around. Leaving is to get together better.
2 giving up is also a kind of tolerance
A person is like a country. Without tolerance, there is no growth. Among all the elements of success, mind is the first, or tolerance is the first.
Sometimes, giving up the words of attack, the impulse of anger and the desire of revenge is itself a kind of tolerance.
Smart people often give up explanation. In many people’s eyes, explanation is a cover-up. Li Ao said well: Sometimes explanations are unnecessary. Enemies don’t believe your explanations. Friends don’t need your explanations. There is no need to explain many things at all. Sometimes the weather is not sunny because the rain doesn’t go through, and it will be fine if it goes through.
Successful people should not be afraid of being scolded, because as long as you do things, you will make mistakes, touch some people and cause dissatisfaction. In fact, it is very good to have 50% of people approve of you. There are very few things in the world, and the more beautiful things are, the easier they are to break. We should exercise our ability to treat opposition correctly, and take the initiative to ask for opposition opinions bravely. Don’t complain about opponents. He can totally have his opinions. This is his freedom and has nothing to do with you. There is no need to try to argue with him, it is important to hurry.
3-time produce beauty
Almost everyone has their own sadness, so we are not surprised that some places that seem to be very important, such as hometown, alma mater, original unit, first love scene, however, it was not likely that many people went back enthusiastically, because there were too many stories in it and too much heaviness in place. Out-of-sight, out-of-mind.
And when everything can be seen, there is always no time to lose. Time has diluted the past, leaving only beautiful memories, memories of youth and growth, the memory of struggle, as well as the bright smile passing by and the warm candlelight in the lonely night. I attended and interviewed many school celebrations, and the most kindly white hair and tears of reunion after a long separation came into my eyes. Time can soften the hardest heart.
Social psychologists tell us that jealousy comes from similar industries and regions, and conflicts often come from the entanglement of interests. “All Creatures are exposed in the fierce struggle”, because all creatures tend to increase at a high rate. Under the condition of limited resources, survival struggle is inevitable. However, the most violent struggle almost always occurs among individuals of the same kind, because they live in the same region, need the same food and suffer the same threat. The easing of some tension needs time and distance. If you are far away, you will feel that it doesn’t matter, and then you will be relieved. Looking from a distance, many things are very beautiful.
Therefore, we don’t have to be depressed about the unsolved problems. The unsolved problems will disappear in the flood of time. Hostility, misunderstanding, contempt and contradiction all fade away with the passage of time, and time can make the sea change.
No matter how good the eyes are, you will be tired after looking at something for a long time. The physical strength, emotion and intelligence cycle of a person determine that a person cannot stay in the climax forever. In a life cycle, people will inevitably go to a low tide. One year is a life cycle.
“Timely and beautiful retreat is as important as beautiful attack. After assisting someone for a long time, even the lucky goddess will be tired “. What matters is not to win others’ applause when you are present, but to miss you when you leave.
The aesthetics of retreat is good start and good end. Its key is the timing and method of “end. It is more difficult to withdraw smoothly than to enter smoothly, because the top of the mountain is beautiful, because people are generally tired when going down the mountain.
“There is no moss on the Rolling Stone”. If you don’t go down this mountain, you can’t go up that mountain. One can climb countless mountains in one’s life. Every mountain is so unique, but no mountain is really worth your staying forever.
One of the factors affecting retirement is lust, and the other is excessive persistence. For the interests of life, no one should be too persistent. The so-called excessive persistence means not being paranoid on a certain aspect, a certain desire, an attempt, a certain purpose and a certain process. Any bigotry may make people lose the pertinent judgment, thus missing the beautiful scenery and delaying life.
5 You can’t lose anything if you lose
“You can’t lose anything because you give people a smile, because it will come back forever”. The product will come back as soon as it goes out. No one doesn’t like smiling.
But the problem is that things that make people smile are often not around, while things that make you fidgety and uneasy are always lingering. Being unable to be with the people and things you like is the root cause of many people’s unhappiness, because you have no source of happiness.
There was a time when I was very disappointed. The girl I liked didn’t care about me. The manuscript I carefully prepared was changed and changed, and my body also went wrong, I often come to visit me with cold, and my life is a mess. At this time, my good friend said to me, “You can’t lose anything. Let go of something”. I decided to change. I didn’t look for that girl any more. I immediately threw that article elsewhere. I also said goodbye to my lazy and irregular life and started playing ball and running every day. As a result, my body became bodybuilding. My manuscript was published soon and won the prize. The girl I no longer “cared” began to care about me……
There must be some reason why a person or thing can make you uncomfortable. Some reasons may not be known until a long time later, while some reasons will never be known, but these are not important. What matters is that it makes you uncomfortable. It will affect your mood, your judgment and your time.
What’s wrong with giving others a chance to know you again and a chance to know the wider world?